Zero messages and clicks to your profile, countless meet ups with dating duds or being ghosted, and experiences with soul-crushing breakups can leave you questioning, “What’s wrong with me?” You might even engage in negative self-talk statements, such as, “If only I was only prettier, smarter, thinner,” (insert self-critical adjective here), then someone would love you.
If you are down in the dating dumps, you might be ready to shout out, “Screw this dating BS!”
I get it, you feel disheartened, discouraged, and demotivated. But, before you have a full blown pity party, I wanted to provide some inspiration to rejuvenate your dating esteem.
As part of a free virtual dating summit that I co-hosted with Neely Steinberg from The Love Trep, I was privileged to interview the country’s top love experts, therapists, doctors, coaches and authors—people who live and breathe love. They shared their best dating advice for single women of all ages.
I asked each expert for a quote, and was amazed that the majority of them provided words of wisdom that all tapped into the same theme—loving yourself and being yourself.
This resounding message may sound obvious, but it’s so hard to do when your confidence and self-esteem are low, especially if you feel shame, embarrassment, guilt, or disgust for parts of yourself.
Everyone has weaknesses, so you must take responsibility for self-improvement, but never compromise on your deal breakers and non-negotiables. Self-love is tied to dating success when you can shift your mindset to believe that the right partner will value, appreciate and cherish you once you can do that for yourself.
The core of healthy dating life comes down to loving who you are.
Here are 10 inspirational love quotes to read, pin, tweet, share, write in your journal or hang on your mirror so that you can wake up and be reminded to love yourself and be proud to be you every day:
“In order to create the relationship that you’re dreaming of you need to first start from the inside and work your way out.” –Dr. Jeanine Staples, Scholar, Educator, Coach
“Date to be known, not to be liked” –Dr. Chris Donaghue, Sex Therapist and Author
“Your life is your creative masterpiece. Consciously creating your entire reality from the TRUTH of who you are will lead you to your deepest freedom and fulfillment” –Bec Robbins, Founder, Inspired Creative Process
“Life is the teacher, love is the medicine, and you have to start with loving yourself” –Dr. Ray Doktor, Breakthrough Relationship Coach
“You determine your own self-worth—own it, radiate it and others will see you in the same light” –Samantha Burns, Licensed Counselor and Relationship Expert
“Love is what you find when you stop searching and instead focus on becoming the best YOU that you can be” -Charles Orlando, Relationship Expert, Bestselling Author, TV Host
“Be the CEO of your love life. Nobody but you can take on that role or responsibility. It’s up to you to create and build the change you want to see.” – NeelySteinberg; Dating Coach, Personal Image Consultant, & Founder of The Love TREP
"Learn to F.L.Y. First Love Yourself and the rest is easy" –Lisa Lieberman-Wang, Relationship Expert & Creator of Neuro Associative Programming (NAP)
“Be yourself, love yourself and never compromise yourself” –Jonathan Aslay, Dating and Relationship Coach
“Be the best version of yourself and you'll attract the right man” –Suzanne Oshima, Matchmaker and Dating Coach
Rather than telling yourself that you’re flawed, unloveable, doomed to be alone forever, or that you’re deleting your dating profile and never logging back on, allow these inspirational quotes sink in. Turn inward and commit to exploring, complimenting, and fulfilling yourself.
Speak to yourself with compassion and kindness. Rewrite your negative narratives, challenge your dysfunctional dating beliefs, and learn to love yourself.
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